It's probably the Vista firewall blocking you from connecting.
Try to alt+tab out of AOE3 and see if you can see the firewall blocking
message.
"Can't play age of empires3 online" <Can't play age of empires3 online
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> when i conect to the game server and it wants me to log in i will type my
> username and my password in and then it does nothing i click continue and
> it
> does nothing at all ive been trying everything!!! and still nothing will
> work
> please someone out there help me plzzzz i would very very very very much
> apriciate it